When you start playing online games, it can feel like stepping into a whole new world – with its own language, secret signals, and rules that nobody actually explains. These are what we call unwritten rules.
They’re not in the tutorials. You won’t get a pop-up telling you what they are. But if you miss them, it can make you feel confused or left out.
If you’re neurodivergent (like many of us are), this stuff can feel extra tricky. So here’s a friendly guide to some of the social signals and “game manners” that players often use – especially in multiplayer games.
1. Crouching = Peace
In many games, crouching up and down quickly is a way to show you’re friendly. It’s like waving!
- When to use it: If you’re in a non-serious or sandbox game and you don’t want to fight someone, crouching can be a way to say, “I come in peace.”
- Important note: Not everyone will respond the same. Some players ignore it. Some might still attack. That’s okay – not everyone plays the same way.
2. It’s OK To Protect Your Ears!
Gaming can be noisy, with teammates chatting, lots of sounds, or messages all at once. If it starts to feel overwhelming, it is completely fine to take a step back.
You can:
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Turn down or mute the volume
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Change your settings (such as muting certain players or using subtitles)
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Take a short break away from sound
Your comfort comes first. Finding what works best for you helps make the game more enjoyable and keeps you feeling safe.
For parents: Supporting your child to adjust sound settings or step away when needed can help gaming remain fun and manageable.
3. GG Means “Good Game”
Saying “GG” at the end of a match is a way to be a good sport, even if you lost.
- It’s a signal that says: “Thanks for playing with me.”
- If someone says “EZ” (easy) instead: That’s not kind. It’s bragging and most players don’t like it.
4. Taking A Break Is OK!
Gaming with others works best when everyone can rely on each other—but sometimes you might need to step away in the middle of a match. That’s completely okay.
Your wellbeing always comes first. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, unsafe, or just not okay, taking a break is the right choice. When you can, try to pause or step out between matches so your teammates know what to expect.
5. Skins and Outfits Don’t Mean Skill
Some players wear flashy outfits or “skins” – but that doesn’t always mean they’re good at the game. Try not to judge someone (or yourself!) based on how they look in-game. Often in games like Fortnite, players might opt for skins which have a smaller ‘hitbox’ (so you’re harder to hit).
- Play style > clothes. Just like in real life.
6. Watch and Learn From Others
If someone’s really good, it’s okay to admire how they play. But copying them exactly or following them everywhere in-game might make them uncomfortable.
- Better idea: Watch from a distance, then try the move yourself later. You can always say in chat: “Nice move!” or “How did you do that?”
7. Trolling = Not Cool
“Messing around” in ways that ruin the fun for others – like blocking teammates on purpose or stealing gear – might seem funny to you, but it can really frustrate others.
- Rule of thumb: If it wouldn’t feel good if someone did it to you, try not to do it.
8. Ask Before Joining a Friend’s Game
Even if a friend is online, their game might be full or they might not be ready to play with others.
- Pro tip: Send a message like, “Hey, want company?” instead of jumping in right away.
9. Let People Play Their Way
Some players just want to build. Some want to explore. Some want to win. All play styles are valid – as long as they don’t hurt others’ experience.
- Tip for parents: If your child prefers building to battling, sandbox or creative games can be great choices.
10. It’s Okay to Be New
Everyone starts somewhere. If someone makes fun of you for not knowing something, that’s their problem – not yours.
- You’re learning, and that’s awesome. Every pro gamer was a beginner once.
One Last Thought: Everyone Games Differently
Not everyone communicates in the same way. Some people talk a lot. Some type. Some don’t speak at all. That’s okay.
Whether you’re autistic, have ADHD, are socially anxious, or just learning how this world works – you belong here too.
Gaming can be a great way to connect, explore, and express yourself. So play in the way that feels good to you, and try to be kind to others along the way.
